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  • Piggleston PecanpantsL Piggleston Pecanpants

    @cyberlyra To get the license you have to apply for a tax ID and announce to the government you're starting a business. And banks have eliminated cash so they can have their greedy fingers in everything so now you need a merchant account with monthly fees on top of the % off of each sale. You can only turn your passion into a business if you already have money. There's so many barriers to entry that you need to keep working for the gate keepers to survive. 2/2

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    @cyberlyra I could have added more details on the barriers but have a character limit on my server.
    The short point I'm making is keeners are actively discouraged from being keeners. "What's the point? You'll only succeed being a cog in the machine." It doesn't account for some people being wired this way and having to continue to learn every day, every hour in order to not wither and die.

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    • Maximilian Overdraft, Esq.A Maximilian Overdraft, Esq.

      @cyberlyra I grew up here and am genx. A lot of what you say is true to my experience. Scholastics aren't valued except as stepping stones. Learning had better be done on your own, and innovation is IP. Group effort is rewarded by alienation of credit and labor value is stripped of value amongst your peers. My life is full of learned lessons and alienation. Nearly everyone I know has learned bitter lessons about the industries and companies they worked in. I've pursued dozens of interests and monetized none of them, resulting in a career of left turns, tons of experience that have been untranslatable to peers. It's an unsustainable culture we live in, on the verge of collapse, and the pusher and shover robots are poised on the stairs.

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      @aka_quant_noir @cyberlyra We will be safe at the bottom of the stairs. We will be safe from the terrible secret of space. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

        Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

        But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

        There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

        I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

        But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

        What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

        To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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        @cyberlyra Gosh, this lands like a pallet of books. This illuminates the "weird frictions" I sometimes felt when interacting with folks in the USA.
        Sometimes I get the thought "what a weird thing to say..." It's making more sense if they are thinking "What's this guy *up to*?"

        On the other paw, if they ignored "madly off in all directions" in my introductions around the table that's a little bit "on them". ๐Ÿ™‚

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        • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

          Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

          But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

          There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

          I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

          But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

          What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

          To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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          @cyberlyra
          Thank you for this. It resonates very much, especially at this moment.
          I guess I could be called a keener too, someone who is fond of learning and making things, but without the ambition to work really hard or become rich and famous with it.
          Maybe I also lack the social skills, to get rich and successful, skills that you apparently have to make it all work.
          I real life I more often get called a nerd or a geek, but I don't consider myself one, and I also don't like the negative connotations of those terms. A keener sounds much better. Thanks for that term!

          I don't know if you are familiar with the personality typing system called the Enneagram ? It's generally considered a good to tool for personal development, because it gives you insight in your own character, pecularities and pitfalls.

          There are 9 main types, and I'm a type 5 which is called "The Researcher" or "Investigator". This type wants to know/understand the world, hence you never stop learning ๐Ÿ˜‚
          You might also be a 5 maybe. Of course the typology is much more fine grained than just 9 types.
          There's a lot to be found online, but often you have to pay for it.
          Here you can do a free test with some basic info for free:

          https://enneagramtest.com/

          The site below is from the original developers, Don Richard Riso and by Russ Hudson.

          https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

          Has a lot of info, I also have their book which I think is quite good.

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          • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

            Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

            But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

            There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

            I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

            But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

            What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

            To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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            @cyberlyra omg. There is a country with a word for it?!

            Coming from Germany I have missed this so much.

            There are a lot of negative words about someone who is eager to learn. In school it's "streber" which also implies you suck up to the teacher and are a traitor to your classmates. There is "Besserwisser" for know it all or "altklug" for kids that know stuff.

            I have believed there should be a positive word for the attitude of wanting to learn. Thank you for posting it!

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            • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

              I have lived in the US for 23 years. This week I used the word "keener" at a meeting and someone interrupted me to ask what that was. I explained it's a Canadian word for someone who's just earnestly enthusiastic, an eager beaver, selflessly just excited about learning stuff and participating.

              I alwasy thought it was just something we have a cooler word for that they don't -- like toque for beanie, or parkade for 'multi-story parking garage', or garburator for in-sink disposal unit (I mean, come on).

              But this week I realized--there is no equivalent in the US, for keeners. It's like that thought-language concept about linguistic relativity (no word for orange= can't see orange) except the other way around (no word for it because it is impossible).

              There is no word for keener in America because you can't be a keener in America.

              Love learning? You have to display it so you get the top grades and go to Yale and make lots of money as a lawyer. Work hard? Not because you love it but because you don't know any other way to be. Expert about something? You gotta hustle and monetize with YouTube videos else you're not an expert and also you can't afford to send your kids to college. Love music, or dancing? you have to do it eight times a week for a trillion dollars or you can't do it at all.

              Having elementary school aged children in the US has been eye-opening. It is Lord of the Flies in the classroom and on the playground. Children learn it's a hierarchy, and it's better to be on top, whatever that takes. Seven year olds on investment apps. Constant culture cramming. Playground games where they literally hit each other with sticks. Grabbing others' toys while some teacher you don't pay attention to says something useless about 'sharing' and you eventually turn that into 'an economy.'

              (1/2)

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              @cyberlyra Americans call it "into [it]".
              @vicgrinberg

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              • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

                But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

                There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

                I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

                But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

                What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

                To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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                @cyberlyra Wow, this explains my experience of other students to a โ€œTโ€ ๐Ÿ˜น
                And since Iโ€™m from the northern states , I actually have heard the word โ€œkeenerโ€ and almost used for a descriptor of a person.
                Iโ€™m definitely a โ€œkeenerโ€ myself ๐Ÿ˜น, (homeschooled by an academic) so I was astonished how many kids in college were โ€œcompletely disinterestedโ€ in the subjects they were taking. Even more surprised when I spoke with professors and they were โ€œamazed by my learning propensitiesโ€ ๐Ÿ˜น

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                • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                  Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

                  But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

                  There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

                  I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

                  But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

                  What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

                  To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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                  @cyberlyra There are two words which in their older meaning describe just this difference:
                  The professional -> doing it for profit, thus mostly with the lowest investment of effort possible
                  The amateur -> doing it for love (amour), and therefore mostly with more heart

                  And BTW: I would love not to be able to see orange these days ๐Ÿ˜…

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                    @cyberlyra Wow, this explains my experience of other students to a โ€œTโ€ ๐Ÿ˜น
                    And since Iโ€™m from the northern states , I actually have heard the word โ€œkeenerโ€ and almost used for a descriptor of a person.
                    Iโ€™m definitely a โ€œkeenerโ€ myself ๐Ÿ˜น, (homeschooled by an academic) so I was astonished how many kids in college were โ€œcompletely disinterestedโ€ in the subjects they were taking. Even more surprised when I spoke with professors and they were โ€œamazed by my learning propensitiesโ€ ๐Ÿ˜น

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                    @cyberlyra Itโ€™s really sad when you go into a class and all they want is โ€œthe gradeโ€ and are calculating the smallest possible work needed to make it possible ๐Ÿซฉ
                    I am proud of myself that in some classes my โ€œenthusiasmโ€ rubbed off on my classmates who found real joy in learning whatever subjects we were working on ๐Ÿ˜น

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                    • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                      Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

                      But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

                      There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

                      I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

                      But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

                      What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

                      To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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                      @cyberlyra

                      My mother would use a literal description for the spark you're describing: "a live wire."

                      Maybe if you spent more time with less successful Americans you would think better of us.

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                      • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                        Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

                        But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

                        There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

                        I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

                        But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

                        What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

                        To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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                        @cyberlyra ouch. That hits home, a bit too close for comfort maybe ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

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                          @c0debabe Yes! But I fear also a culture of not including or celebrating you. ๐Ÿ˜ž Many people I meet in the US who would otherwise be keeners are deeply sarcastic, or traumatized, or guarded or thick skinned....

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                          @cyberlyra @c0debabe Or working at unprestigious jobs, and reading what they please in their free time. That's me. I'm a night inpatient hospital pharmacist in a backwater; I have a PhD in philosophy in addition to my PharmD, and I'm in ABD status for a doctorate in computer science. I've worked at research institutes. But I decided I'd had enough of the world of hard men and soft money.

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                          • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                            Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

                            But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

                            There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

                            I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

                            But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

                            What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

                            To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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                            @cyberlyra I didnโ€™t really understand the mental calculations behind this kind of behavior until I read The Elephant in the Brain. It pretty much explains how this works, and it makes me so sad for the people who donโ€™t seem to experience joy from something just for the sake of it.

                            https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Elephant_in_the_Brain

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                            • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                              I have lived in the US for 23 years. This week I used the word "keener" at a meeting and someone interrupted me to ask what that was. I explained it's a Canadian word for someone who's just earnestly enthusiastic, an eager beaver, selflessly just excited about learning stuff and participating.

                              I alwasy thought it was just something we have a cooler word for that they don't -- like toque for beanie, or parkade for 'multi-story parking garage', or garburator for in-sink disposal unit (I mean, come on).

                              But this week I realized--there is no equivalent in the US, for keeners. It's like that thought-language concept about linguistic relativity (no word for orange= can't see orange) except the other way around (no word for it because it is impossible).

                              There is no word for keener in America because you can't be a keener in America.

                              Love learning? You have to display it so you get the top grades and go to Yale and make lots of money as a lawyer. Work hard? Not because you love it but because you don't know any other way to be. Expert about something? You gotta hustle and monetize with YouTube videos else you're not an expert and also you can't afford to send your kids to college. Love music, or dancing? you have to do it eight times a week for a trillion dollars or you can't do it at all.

                              Having elementary school aged children in the US has been eye-opening. It is Lord of the Flies in the classroom and on the playground. Children learn it's a hierarchy, and it's better to be on top, whatever that takes. Seven year olds on investment apps. Constant culture cramming. Playground games where they literally hit each other with sticks. Grabbing others' toys while some teacher you don't pay attention to says something useless about 'sharing' and you eventually turn that into 'an economy.'

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                              @cyberlyra oh my gosh, I think Iโ€™m a keener!! Iโ€™ve not had a word like this to describe my attitude towards learning for the sake of learning.

                              Thank you for introducing it to us

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                                @cyberlyra oh my gosh, I think Iโ€™m a keener!! Iโ€™ve not had a word like this to describe my attitude towards learning for the sake of learning.

                                Thank you for introducing it to us

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                                @mariyadelano @cyberlyra in south India, they use โ€˜enthu cutletโ€™

                                I really love that

                                https://m.economictimes.com/opinion/speaking-tree/enthu-cutlet-are-you/articleshow/113991910.cms

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                                • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                                  I have lived in the US for 23 years. This week I used the word "keener" at a meeting and someone interrupted me to ask what that was. I explained it's a Canadian word for someone who's just earnestly enthusiastic, an eager beaver, selflessly just excited about learning stuff and participating.

                                  I alwasy thought it was just something we have a cooler word for that they don't -- like toque for beanie, or parkade for 'multi-story parking garage', or garburator for in-sink disposal unit (I mean, come on).

                                  But this week I realized--there is no equivalent in the US, for keeners. It's like that thought-language concept about linguistic relativity (no word for orange= can't see orange) except the other way around (no word for it because it is impossible).

                                  There is no word for keener in America because you can't be a keener in America.

                                  Love learning? You have to display it so you get the top grades and go to Yale and make lots of money as a lawyer. Work hard? Not because you love it but because you don't know any other way to be. Expert about something? You gotta hustle and monetize with YouTube videos else you're not an expert and also you can't afford to send your kids to college. Love music, or dancing? you have to do it eight times a week for a trillion dollars or you can't do it at all.

                                  Having elementary school aged children in the US has been eye-opening. It is Lord of the Flies in the classroom and on the playground. Children learn it's a hierarchy, and it's better to be on top, whatever that takes. Seven year olds on investment apps. Constant culture cramming. Playground games where they literally hit each other with sticks. Grabbing others' toys while some teacher you don't pay attention to says something useless about 'sharing' and you eventually turn that into 'an economy.'

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                                  @cyberlyra

                                  I know and use the word: "keener" and I live right in the middle of the United State (Kansas City) but I am a boomer and my parents used it a lot, probably more than I do. I am pretty sure my friends use it but it's not a word used a lot here. Book readers will most certainly be apt to use it more than none book readers, I am guessing.

                                  Regarding the kids . . . sigh . . . My generation (boomers) and Gen Xers should be ashamed -- If *that* word means anything any more. We have destroyed any hope for kids coming up. If you get a degree in college, you are going to be in debt half or more of your life paying it off. There is no hope of buying a house, jobs are shit with AI data centers being build around the country -- sucking our water (which we are in low supply) and our electricity (which costs are rising) so that AI can hallucinate can vomit its incorrect/wrong concussions at alarming rates all over the place with total confidence and presentation -- flooding the internet with slop.

                                  We are teaching children, through example, that only way to get ahead is to be a grifter, a con artists, to smash and grab, with no concern for the lives and the damaged left in our selfish wake.

                                  Today, I turn on the TV and learn that the Trump administration just deleted any reference to global warming from the EPA and that companies can now pump anything they want into the sky.

                                  Wages are stagnant. REAL wages after inflation are going down. Healthcare is fucked. CEOs are intentionally killing people for profits and the only way to make a living is to be an OWNER -- of assets in the stock market or elsewhere because the only way to have real income is to have passive income.

                                  WE created this world of Lord of the Flies. My generation are the most selfish, self centered ^**%$# *^($$3s

                                  Having said that I am doing everything in my power to help my little corner of the universe and I applaud you for trying in your little corner

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                                  • Mariya DelanoM Mariya Delano

                                    @cyberlyra oh my gosh, I think Iโ€™m a keener!! Iโ€™ve not had a word like this to describe my attitude towards learning for the sake of learning.

                                    Thank you for introducing it to us

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                                    @cyberlyra@hachyderm.io I had the same thought. "OMG, I'm Canuck."

                                    Turns out, I'm not an odd duck, I'm a loon. Headed to Timmy's for a double double. ๐Ÿ˜โค๏ธ๐Ÿ‡จ๐Ÿ‡ฆ๐ŸฅŒ
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                                    • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                                      I have lived in the US for 23 years. This week I used the word "keener" at a meeting and someone interrupted me to ask what that was. I explained it's a Canadian word for someone who's just earnestly enthusiastic, an eager beaver, selflessly just excited about learning stuff and participating.

                                      I alwasy thought it was just something we have a cooler word for that they don't -- like toque for beanie, or parkade for 'multi-story parking garage', or garburator for in-sink disposal unit (I mean, come on).

                                      But this week I realized--there is no equivalent in the US, for keeners. It's like that thought-language concept about linguistic relativity (no word for orange= can't see orange) except the other way around (no word for it because it is impossible).

                                      There is no word for keener in America because you can't be a keener in America.

                                      Love learning? You have to display it so you get the top grades and go to Yale and make lots of money as a lawyer. Work hard? Not because you love it but because you don't know any other way to be. Expert about something? You gotta hustle and monetize with YouTube videos else you're not an expert and also you can't afford to send your kids to college. Love music, or dancing? you have to do it eight times a week for a trillion dollars or you can't do it at all.

                                      Having elementary school aged children in the US has been eye-opening. It is Lord of the Flies in the classroom and on the playground. Children learn it's a hierarchy, and it's better to be on top, whatever that takes. Seven year olds on investment apps. Constant culture cramming. Playground games where they literally hit each other with sticks. Grabbing others' toys while some teacher you don't pay attention to says something useless about 'sharing' and you eventually turn that into 'an economy.'

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                                      @cyberlyra I think about the most important word in your definition of keener is the word "selflessly". It shows up in American news stories about disaster relief or about rescues from life-threatening situations. But it shows up because it's news. It isn't, I think, the norm.

                                      It's like "humility" in that way. Lauded in some circles (especially some faith-centered circles), but not the national norm.

                                      These are not widespread American traits. We would be a better people if they were. Better to be keeners in the Canadian sense than to constantly feel the need to revert to keening in the wailing and lamentation sense.

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                                      • CyberlyraC Cyberlyra

                                        Growing up, I was always called "a keener." For good or bad it was part of my identity. Maybe people here have persistently misunderstood me as ambitious when actually I just really, really, really like learning things. Maybe they don't understand why I'm not too strategic because I never thought it was winner takes all game. Maybe they'll read this and think it's dishonest and self-serving because that's all there can be.

                                        But you can't afford to be a keener in this country because you will get belitted for it and passed by as a naif. If you genuininely just love working with people, or learning about stuff, or making things, because it brings you tremendous, expansive, loving pleasure, people figure there must be some reason why you're doing it, otherwise there's no reason to do it.

                                        There is so much inequality, so much grasping, so much competition, so much of the time there is no place for keeners and the joyful, earnest, even clueless energy they bring. Small wonder even people I approach with earnesty think there must be something behind it, hopefully until they get to know me better.

                                        I suspect there is a lot I have misunderstood about my students here too. I thought many of them loved learning and we had that in common. They do their assignments and speak politely to their profs and show up in office hours to ask questions. It looks like being a keener, on the surface, to another keener at least. Why wouldn't they want to geek out with me about things we care about?

                                        But the majority of them know the game. They got to where they got to because they played it. They were the smartest and most culture crammed so they could be here and launch to a great career. They are adding items to their resumes that make them look shinier than the next person when it comes to the last job left on earth.

                                        What a joyless form of learning and living that must be.

                                        To be clear, that isn't everyone I've interacted with. But I am slowly re-appraising many of the interactions that I thought I understood (and others that I just never understood) from the vantage point that "keener" is not a type you can be here. And that means that for a vast majority of the people I interact with, I'm probably deeply, deeply misunderstood. 2/2

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                                        @cyberlyra Thank you for writing that, and thank you for giving me a new vocabulary word, keener! I have always lived in the U.S. and I was a keen learner interested in my surroundings. There was no regional description for me while I was younger, and it was painful to know I would need to learn uninteresting lessons for being employed before I could earn enough to afford adulthood with money for a small house with unending property taxes and health insurance and living expenses. I was fifty-two when I found out what people like me are called, here; they said Asperger's Syndrome, on the Autism Spectrum. Happy ending, now I have retirement income sufficient to pay taxes and insurance and enough left over to eat and sleep and resume learning new things of all sorts, learning for fun ๐Ÿ™‚

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                                          @cyberlyra I live in a little pocket universe of America called Portland, Oregon. I think perhaps we're much more like Canada culturallyโ€ฆhere people might look at you funny if you *don't* have a wide ranging set of eccentric hobbies and are expending too much effort on the hustle and grind. ๐Ÿ˜‚

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                                          @jaredwhite @cyberlyra isn't one of the creators of Portlandia a Canadian?

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