Are there any great essays for how to handle your haters?
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Are there any great essays for how to handle your haters? I would especially love stuff from Midwesterners/women/people who tend to be very outspoken. A frequent experience I have is simply narrating the facts of my life/things I've experienced and how that's shifted my life outlook, and it seems to set some people off in very weird ways. Sometimes I'm like, well I'm the common denominator so maybe it's me, but other times I think me doing my thing can make people project their own insecurities.
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Are there any great essays for how to handle your haters? I would especially love stuff from Midwesterners/women/people who tend to be very outspoken. A frequent experience I have is simply narrating the facts of my life/things I've experienced and how that's shifted my life outlook, and it seems to set some people off in very weird ways. Sometimes I'm like, well I'm the common denominator so maybe it's me, but other times I think me doing my thing can make people project their own insecurities.
Recent examples include a friend going "my man my man" anytime I talk about how seriously traumatizing my divorce has been or friends who grew up in the midwest and now live elsewhere who seem to be triggered by me discussing the reality that there is a lot of significant anti-midwest/anti-southern bias baked into a lot of mainstream journalism, cultural, and public policy work centered in coastal areas (like I get accused of calling people coastal elites even when I don't use that language!)
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Recent examples include a friend going "my man my man" anytime I talk about how seriously traumatizing my divorce has been or friends who grew up in the midwest and now live elsewhere who seem to be triggered by me discussing the reality that there is a lot of significant anti-midwest/anti-southern bias baked into a lot of mainstream journalism, cultural, and public policy work centered in coastal areas (like I get accused of calling people coastal elites even when I don't use that language!)
I think I am also locking in on this because I am about to write some essays on things that I know are very tender areas for some people (women changing their names, not having children) and I am prematurely exhausted by this current cultural norm that when you talk about this kind of thing you're supposed to issue a million disclaimers so people's feelings aren't hurt. I find this kind of thing terribly anti-intellectual, as if any one person's writing is the judge and jury of your own life.
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