Morning reflection: becoming an adult isn’t about getting older, but about learning when the time comes to "disengage".
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@stefano same... I got asked recently why I don't care about some things anymore and stubbornly do some things others obviously think of being silly or not worth the effort (like regularly go out and clean up our beach).
I replied "oh, I do care but the older I get I decided to chose my own battles more wisely". Maybe I'm a bit like the German proverb goes "telling lies into my own pocket" but atm it feels right.
@Tionisla this is a wise approach.
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Morning reflection: becoming an adult isn’t about getting older, but about learning when the time comes to "disengage". When the stream of thoughts, disagreements, integrity, that feeling of being right, turns into a simple "OK".
Not because you changed your mind, but because you understand that continuing to argue won’t change it either.
And so that OK is both an ending and a beginning: the end of the discussion, and the start of putting into practice what you believe anyway.@stefano your energy, and mental health,are finite resources.
absolutely agree - realizing that, and that you can put those resources to better use - signs of maturity.
Bonus points if that "better usage" eventually lets you rub the proof of how right you were all along in "their" faces!
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@stefano your energy, and mental health,are finite resources.
absolutely agree - realizing that, and that you can put those resources to better use - signs of maturity.
Bonus points if that "better usage" eventually lets you rub the proof of how right you were all along in "their" faces!
(ok I might still have some growing up to do)@kaasbaas exactly. A wiser use of those energies means: a better way to demonstrate you were right, without spending too much time & energy just trying to prove it by discussing
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@kaasbaas exactly. A wiser use of those energies means: a better way to demonstrate you were right, without spending too much time & energy just trying to prove it by discussing
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Morning reflection: becoming an adult isn’t about getting older, but about learning when the time comes to "disengage". When the stream of thoughts, disagreements, integrity, that feeling of being right, turns into a simple "OK".
Not because you changed your mind, but because you understand that continuing to argue won’t change it either.
And so that OK is both an ending and a beginning: the end of the discussion, and the start of putting into practice what you believe anyway.@stefano science suggeats it is also a biological transition via developmental stages. A teen thinks very differently from a 20yo because of nature. That said, some seem to struggle to behave like adults whatever their age.
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Morning reflection: becoming an adult isn’t about getting older, but about learning when the time comes to "disengage". When the stream of thoughts, disagreements, integrity, that feeling of being right, turns into a simple "OK".
Not because you changed your mind, but because you understand that continuing to argue won’t change it either.
And so that OK is both an ending and a beginning: the end of the discussion, and the start of putting into practice what you believe anyway.I'm adult enough to do that with everyone except my nearest and dearest. The argument just comes out before I take a breath. Well, maybe I hit 50%. I'll have to pay attention and see. That might actually help, especially if I take note of saying "OK" when it happens. Positive feedback does seem to work better for this sort of stuff.
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I'm adult enough to do that with everyone except my nearest and dearest. The argument just comes out before I take a breath. Well, maybe I hit 50%. I'll have to pay attention and see. That might actually help, especially if I take note of saying "OK" when it happens. Positive feedback does seem to work better for this sort of stuff.
@ajlewis2 doing this with closest people is - by far - much more difficult
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Morning reflection: becoming an adult isn’t about getting older, but about learning when the time comes to "disengage". When the stream of thoughts, disagreements, integrity, that feeling of being right, turns into a simple "OK".
Not because you changed your mind, but because you understand that continuing to argue won’t change it either.
And so that OK is both an ending and a beginning: the end of the discussion, and the start of putting into practice what you believe anyway.According to Carl Jung, the second half of life is not a decline. It is a different psychological journey altogether. The first half is about building a place in the world. The second half is about discovering who you are without the world’s applause.
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According to Carl Jung, the second half of life is not a decline. It is a different psychological journey altogether. The first half is about building a place in the world. The second half is about discovering who you are without the world’s applause.
@yuhasz01 wise. Beautiful.
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@yuhasz01 wise. Beautiful.
Jung quote about aging is why I take issue with people's comments dismissing Trump due to his being an old man.
HE IS NOT! He acts like a misguided sociopath, teenager and has not matured or learned anything about life. -
Morning reflection: becoming an adult isn’t about getting older, but about learning when the time comes to "disengage". When the stream of thoughts, disagreements, integrity, that feeling of being right, turns into a simple "OK".
Not because you changed your mind, but because you understand that continuing to argue won’t change it either.
And so that OK is both an ending and a beginning: the end of the discussion, and the start of putting into practice what you believe anyway.2 sides of this coin: you can either become a sweet loving old man or a bitter angry old man. I imagine the sweet old man just says OK. I strive to be this type of old man. One day maybe
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2 sides of this coin: you can either become a sweet loving old man or a bitter angry old man. I imagine the sweet old man just says OK. I strive to be this type of old man. One day maybe
@thedaemon me too. It’s so full of angry old men that I don’t want to become one of them.
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According to Carl Jung, the second half of life is not a decline. It is a different psychological journey altogether. The first half is about building a place in the world. The second half is about discovering who you are without the world’s applause.
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According to Carl Jung, the second half of life is not a decline. It is a different psychological journey altogether. The first half is about building a place in the world. The second half is about discovering who you are without the world’s applause.
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Morning reflection: becoming an adult isn’t about getting older, but about learning when the time comes to "disengage". When the stream of thoughts, disagreements, integrity, that feeling of being right, turns into a simple "OK".
Not because you changed your mind, but because you understand that continuing to argue won’t change it either.
And so that OK is both an ending and a beginning: the end of the discussion, and the start of putting into practice what you believe anyway.@stefano I’ve always seen it as that point when you accept the consequences of your decisions.
Of course, some people never become an adult… -
According to Carl Jung, the second half of life is not a decline. It is a different psychological journey altogether. The first half is about building a place in the world. The second half is about discovering who you are without the world’s applause.
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