@punishmenthurts @KatyElphinstone @autistics so, you also think not being inclined to punish can be an autistic trait? I raised my kid without punishments at all: we had a system of agreements which were functioning like ‘I will do my part if you do yours’, and I always tried to teach about possible consequences of any actions (or lack of those) - so my kid knows that crossing a street on red light is bad not because I or some police will punish them, but because a car can hit them, and so on. And at work, when I work as a manager(I always try to avoid that, but at any place I stay long enough I got pushed to managing positions) I don’t punish anyone - when there is a fail, I try to define what actions/decisions lead to that fail and try to organize future processes to avoid possible scenarios in future. The thing is, I don’t believe in punishments and think they do more harm than good: a person that is afraid of a punishment pays more attention to the possible policer/executor than to the problem itself and gets more likely involved, after which spends more time and effort trying to hide from the punishment than to fix the consequences of the issue.