I'm curious, now that Mastodon is better at loading missing replies, have you noticed a decrease in mansplaining?
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@stefan it *definitely* decreases the amount of replies saying (basically) the same thing. i would not call previous instances of that mansplaining, though, because the repliers could do everything in their power to check that they weren’t duplicating someone else’s reply and still wind up doing so. i’m not sure whether you mean to include this phenomenon in your poll.
@chrisamaphone I was specifically thinking about mansplaining when I posted this, I think it would be good to do a proper study on the full impact of this feature. Looking at the results and the replies, I'm guessing it helps reduce the amount of duplicate replies, but people who are dead set on having their voice heard just don't care all that much.
(The poll was boosted by a few Mastodon folks, so maybe this will at least get the conversation started!)
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@watchfulcitizen Well, I see that I won't be able to change your mind, so as the last thing I'll add, I'll just reiterate, almost nobody thinks that literally all men are mansplainers, all of the time, so trying to argue that point is kind of a waste of time.
The term has already caught on, and while there might be more gender-neutral alternatives, I don't know, I mean you're free to try to use them, see if they catch on. You never know!
Good discussion. @watchfulcitizen, a couple of thoughts ... online communications are hard and so it's easy for something to come across as mansplaining even if it isn't intended that way. I'm prone to it myself! So I've made a point to notice what in my style comes across that way, and tried to modify my style. I'm still far from perfect but there does seem to be noticeable improvement. In your case it sounds like you've noticed that it's often linked to overexplaining ... so, doing less of that could be helpful.
In terms of the term "pushing you into defensiveness", it's really more that you are reacting defensively. So don't! It's on you, not on the people using the term.
And the goal of labeling something as mansplaining isn't to fight gender assumptions. It's two-fold: to get guys to be aware of the issue and do less of it (or intervene when they see others doing it), and to reassure women who are the targets of mansplaining know that it's not just them -- it's a common enough phenomenon that it even has a name.
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Good discussion. @watchfulcitizen, a couple of thoughts ... online communications are hard and so it's easy for something to come across as mansplaining even if it isn't intended that way. I'm prone to it myself! So I've made a point to notice what in my style comes across that way, and tried to modify my style. I'm still far from perfect but there does seem to be noticeable improvement. In your case it sounds like you've noticed that it's often linked to overexplaining ... so, doing less of that could be helpful.
In terms of the term "pushing you into defensiveness", it's really more that you are reacting defensively. So don't! It's on you, not on the people using the term.
And the goal of labeling something as mansplaining isn't to fight gender assumptions. It's two-fold: to get guys to be aware of the issue and do less of it (or intervene when they see others doing it), and to reassure women who are the targets of mansplaining know that it's not just them -- it's a common enough phenomenon that it even has a name.
@jdp23 @stefan valid points! Its not that I personaly feel attacked. I try to overexplain less to avoid "mansplaining". The thing I want to dispute isnt really that mansplaining is bad. It is. I want a society that is kind and understanding no matter the gender.
The reason I started the discussion was because I myself can feel the urge to just not voice my opinions when its a woman. Because if the risk of being called mansplaining. And that to me feels like a step towards the wrong direction.
I don't know if its my autism causing me to overexplain or having a strong sence of justice for the double standard. I think we all should just work to make everyone feel included.
Discussions are complex as it is. I'm sure there is tons of perspectives I'm missing and I'll love to hear them. I'm even sure that my POV in this thread will be misunderstood.
