I don't know how everyone else lives their lives but, personally, I never have a reason to think about the genitals of about 99.9% of the people I meet.

@pezmico
After discussions involving different opinions about policing another person's gender/sex, I think there is a confusion for women (of any kind). Men are more often a threat, so some of my friends would like them identified for safety reasons.
I think the answer is to ignore sex/gender and focus on the problem of violence and intimidation, which infects only some men, and sometimes comes from women.

Trouble is I don't know of a solution.
And my friends are still suspicious of men.

@sunflowerinrain @pezmico well trans women aren't men, so

@noodlemaz @pezmico
I agree.

There are various fears at play: the main one is of men *pretending* to be transwomen in order to get close to and prey on women. It's possible.
There's another, much easier to argue against, that transwomen might continue to harbour aggressive male tendencies. Debunkable.

I don't know how everyone else lives their lives but, personally, I never have a reason to think about the genitals of about 99.9% of the people I meet.

If you say I'm a she/her or a he/him I take your word for it.
If you say I am a they /them that's all good too.
If your pronoun changes and you let me know that's a-okay, I might still get it wrong sometimes but I will do my best.

This obsession some people seem to have about the contents of other people's undies is really disturbing.

I don't know how everyone else lives their lives but, personally, I never have a reason to think about the genitals of about 99.9% of the people I meet.

If you say I'm a she/her or a he/him I take your word for it.
If you say I am a they /them that's all good too.
If your pronoun changes and you let me know that's a-okay, I might still get it wrong sometimes but I will do my best.

This obsession some people seem to have about the contents of other people's undies is really disturbing.

@sunflowerinrain @pezmico trans women is two words, like tall woman, blonde woman, happy woman - trans is just an adjective. Squishing the words together makes trans people seem like a third category of human.

The fact that men aren't pretending to be trans women in order to assault women and children and just do it anyway as openly-cis men is plenty enough to debunk the first. Nobody in Epstein's circle was trans. Grooming gangs aren't run by trans women. Trans women aren't shooting up US schools. The evidence is just nil.

And yes, 'aggressive male tendencies' is nonsense. Testosterone as a hormone permits aggression, it doesn't create it. Having more makes a violent person more likely to enact the violence they're inclined towards. It doesn't create the violent impulse.

After living as a woman and physically changing one's body, there's far more in common between trans women and cis women than between cis women and cis men. But there's still so much in common across genders anyway. People are just so concerned about genitals and that is absurd.

https://www.livescience.com/health/theres-no-reason-to-ban-us-from-playing-analysis-debunks-notion-that-transgender-women-have-inherent-physical-advantages-in-sports

I don't know how everyone else lives their lives but, personally, I never have a reason to think about the genitals of about 99.9% of the people I meet.

If you say I'm a she/her or a he/him I take your word for it.
If you say I am a they /them that's all good too.
If your pronoun changes and you let me know that's a-okay, I might still get it wrong sometimes but I will do my best.

This obsession some people seem to have about the contents of other people's undies is really disturbing.

I don't know how everyone else lives their lives but, personally, I never have a reason to think about the genitals of about 99.9% of the people I meet.

If you say I'm a she/her or a he/him I take your word for it.
If you say I am a they /them that's all good too.
If your pronoun changes and you let me know that's a-okay, I might still get it wrong sometimes but I will do my best.

This obsession some people seem to have about the contents of other people's undies is really disturbing.

@noodlemaz @sunflowerinrain @pezmico Female on male and female on female domestic violence occurs in spite of women being heavily socialized to control violent emotions. I think trans demonizing is part of culture's reluctance to admit women can be as violent as men.

@cass_m @sunflowerinrain @pezmico I disagree but don't feel the need to get more into it than that!