@domi @GrapheneOS *sigh* I have to agree. Best thing you can do in front of "bullies" is to ignore them. Same thing goes for dealing with abusers - "best revenge is a life well lived".
I have first-hand experience with both. Therapy doesn't mean an insult, nobody (at least in this thread) wants to hurt you. It took me years to accept I needed help myself, so I *think* I know how you feel.
From my perspective at least, you've showed up and replied to my comment feeling hurt by purely my own experience/opinion.
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@domi chose kindness, hear me out: You've clearly been hurt and never processed the trauma you've experienced. Because of that every single bit of criticism feels like an attack to you.
You can't control how people feel, but you can influence the image they have of you (and right now, you're influencing it negatively).
When all is said and done - sure, GrapheneOS is an Android distribution. However, it has a lot of genuinely cool features and good engineering put into it. Hell, I'm still interested in hardware you're working on!
To put words where my mouth is - I also blew up on multiple occasions when project I was maintaining got overwhelming and people demanded more and more for free. This was especially challenging for me, because I sometimes still have issues dealing with my emotions or navigating social constructs (aka my neurodivergent ass wasn't trained for this), plus social anxiety (which did get a lot better thanks to events like FOSDEM or C3) and no self-confidence to speak of.
Thankfully I had a good friend who (figuratively) slapped me and gave me an ultimatum: You either seek therapy, or our friendship is done. I chose the former (and while it's still not perfect, I'm working on it as mentioned previously).
Seems like you could use such a friend yourself, I can only hope this random comment from a random nerd in Europe will encourage you to at least try therapy. There's no stigma or shame. Everybody deserves happiness, including you.
