@mendedpearl I don't think that really matters. He did an appropriate public apology, and the people attacking him wouldn't know if he had done a private apology as well.

Ro started by attacking Indigenous people and Latine people and Muslims.

Ro pivoted to attacking transfeminine people.

Now Ro is attacking disabled people.

Ro is a bigot and a coward.

This abuse is strategic. It's only ever directed towards extremely vulnerable groups that Ro knows they can get away with hurting.

This is what Ro does.

I'm sure there are thousands of white men who say that slur, every day.

People with more social power, who say the slur on purpose.

Ro doesn't go after any of them.

Ro goes after the disabled guy, based on some quirk of his neurology.

Ro joins in on the massive hate campaign, spreading misinformation and abuse against disabled people.

Because Ro is a fucking coward.

Ro is demanding that a disabled person apologize for able-bodied people's fear of disabled people's bodies.

In this case, that fear is absolutely sympathetic. It is genuinely true that harm was caused.

But that doesn't mean that these demands for apologies and Tourette's denialism are not obvious and intentional bigotry.

You apologize for things you had agency over.

You do not apologise for who you are.

You do not apologize because somebody is afraid of your body.

This is not a complicated issue, and Ro is a smart person.

You apologize for a car accident or for accidentally bumping somebody, because those things are accidents. They are actions that are in some way negligent, while also being unintentional.

Tics are not voluntary. Tics are not negligent. Tics are a 100% involuntary aspect of a certain type of neurology.

It is not okay to demand that a disabled person apologize for their neurotype.

And Ro is in on the Toruette's denialism.

Or something.

For what it's worth, I think E2EE over ActivityPub is mostly a bad idea.

You'd want your messages encrypted to hide them from your instance admin, but in most cases your instance admin also controls your client.

Plus, what are the odds they come up with a more safe implementation than Signal?

https://social.coop/@scottjenson/116099556318006919