This is what happens when a culture is built on the myth of white male supremacy and calls it normal.

And the hardest truth is this:

Many white folx have been conditioned to tolerate abuse because abuse was framed as the cost of belonging.

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No amount of activism, loyalty, or moral performance was ever going to shield you from a system that requires your silence more than your safety. And now, as the curtain gets pulled back, you are realizing that the men you defended, voted for, married, raised, and protected were often benefiting from, or at minimum comfortably coexisting with, a structure that treats women and children as disposable.

This is not an anomaly.
This is not a few “bad actors."

You were pawns in a system that conditioned you to protect the very men who were making bargains with your safety. You believed that if you performed goodness well enough, supported the right causes, stood by the right men, and embodied the right version of womanhood, you would be spared.

But the bargain was never designed to protect you.

It was designed to keep you quiet.

So when abuse shows up in churches, schools, politics, marriages, and communities, it doesn’t register as a betrayal. It registers as familiar.

It feels like home.

And this is why the Epstein revelations are so destabilizing, particularly for white women.

Because many of you are starting to realize something you were never supposed to see:

YOU WERE NEVER SAFE.

When harm is packaged not only as love, but as the kind of love you must endure to access the “American Dream,” it becomes easier to understand why so many white folx are dismissive of harm, and at times, strangely energized by the harm inflicted on “others.”

You were taught that endurance is virtue.
You were taught that suffering is noble.
You were taught that obedience is safety.
You were taught that silence is maturity.

in its many forms, as the price of proximity to unearned privilege created by systems, institutions, and policies designed to “benefit” you.

From the teachings of Dr. James Dobson, to “Acquire the Fire” rallies, to the quiet norms inside white households across this country, white folx embody a truth I often share:

Family is the first place we learn to call abuse love.

This latest release of Epstein files didn’t shock me. It confirmed something I came to understand while working directly with white men during my Facilitated Conversations with Kim Crayton – Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America sessions.

A realization that fundamentally shifted the focus of my work.

In numbers too large to ever fully know, white folx have been indoctrinated by the myth of white supremacy, particularly the myth of white male supremacy, to accept harm,

and wisdom of the very Black women who have held these coalitions together for generations, often while fending off the harm of self-proclaimed white “allies” who claim expertise where none exists, then you are not building anything new.

You are repackaging the same status quo with softer language.

And you will be complicit in what happens next.

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This isn’t about whether they are “good men,” because “good” is subjective and words like “good,” “fair,” and “civility” are often weaponized to excuse harmful decisions and behavior. It’s about the limits of their lived experience and how that shapes what they can see, what they can name, and what they are willing to disrupt.

If your version of “progressive” politics does not center the needs, leadership,

You cannot chant “listen to Black women” while continuing to platform white men.

Sanders. Newsom. Talarico. Carville. And others like them.

They cannot lead us to a supremacy-, coercion-, discrimination-, and exploitation-free world because they have never had to navigate a world where systems, institutions, and policies were not built to benefit them.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again:

You and your politics are not “progressive” if you’re unwilling to have sustained, uncomfortable conversations about race, this country’s racist legacy, and your own internalized racism.

Without that reckoning, nothing you say or propose is meaningfully different from the harm we’re all already living through.

If you think “woke” is a liability to your progressive agenda, Black folx hear you loud and clear.