@alice I admit, I weaponize my general social awkwardness for this purpose — I hug men friends and coworkers, and let them chalk it up to "Rick doesn't understand we don't have a hugging relationship". Rick very much understands, thank you.

I have no regrets about this. If they don't want hugs, they can say so, and no harm no foul. (I don't sneak attack hug. I'm very clear when I'm coming in for a hug.)