I think I am also locking in on this because I am about to write some essays on things that I know are very tender areas for some people (women changing their names, not having children) and I am prematurely exhausted by this current cultural norm that when you talk about this kind of thing you're supposed to issue a million disclaimers so people's feelings aren't hurt. I find this kind of thing terribly anti-intellectual, as if any one person's writing is the judge and jury of your own life.