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Everyone loves blaming a victim.

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  • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

    Everyone loves blaming a victim. "You are encouraging other weird/creepy people" GTFO with that.

    I get a few of these EVERY TIME I post about sexism on this website. I'm sick of it- you all are making me want to delete this server and abandon Fedi. I'm totally serious.

    This is as bad as sexual harassment.

    Robin BartonR This user is from outside of this forum
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    @vkc I also read that responding only spreads their hate

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    • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

      FYI this was in response to me being exhausted, as the amount of men creepily proposing to me continues to grow.

      I was tired of being catcalled, I *talked about it*, and was told I was encouraging it.

      This is the kind of behavior that drives women off of Fedi and toward closed platforms like Instagram where blocking is (seemingly) easier (and where there's more women).

      https://linuxmom.net/@vkc/116007560411131080

      Woozle HypertwinW This user is from outside of this forum
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      @vkc

      [problem-solving mode engaged, hope this is appropriate]

      Would it help if you had another mod to preemptively block these f#ckers before they have a chance to get in your head?

      ...or, longer-term, federated auto-blocking so you could let other instances do much of the mod work...?

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      • Woozle HypertwinW Woozle Hypertwin

        @vkc

        [problem-solving mode engaged, hope this is appropriate]

        Would it help if you had another mod to preemptively block these f#ckers before they have a chance to get in your head?

        ...or, longer-term, federated auto-blocking so you could let other instances do much of the mod work...?

        Veronica ExplainsV This user is from outside of this forum
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        @woozle I wouldn't subject anyone else to the crap I see on this site. I have nightmares after some of the things I see. Some sort of federated blocking would be a good start but we've seen from Bluesky how something like that also has abuse potential.

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        • Veronica ExplainsV This user is from outside of this forum
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          @mcSlibinas was I looking for a reason to block? Did I look like I was unsure about it? Was I asking for advice?

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          • Veronica ExplainsV This user is from outside of this forum
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            @mcSlibinas I WAS LITERALLY POSTING ABOUT BLOCKING

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            • OlivierD This user is from outside of this forum
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              @mcSlibinas so blame the victim?

              @vkc

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              • bo0tzzM This user is from outside of this forum
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                @vkc @mcSlibinas why are you blaming her for others' awful behaviour

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                • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                  Everyone loves blaming a victim. "You are encouraging other weird/creepy people" GTFO with that.

                  I get a few of these EVERY TIME I post about sexism on this website. I'm sick of it- you all are making me want to delete this server and abandon Fedi. I'm totally serious.

                  This is as bad as sexual harassment.

                  himayH This user is from outside of this forum
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                  @vkc Your content is consistently good. I appreciate it. Loved the Apple Arm distro review. Don't let the bastards get you down. Thanks!

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                  • DiegovskyD This user is from outside of this forum
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                    @mcSlibinas @vkc brother these are all responses on her post, stop being a PITA

                    blocking only gets you so far, this is a systemic issue and frankly what are you adding to the discussion?

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                    • Veronica ExplainsV Veronica Explains

                      FYI this was in response to me being exhausted, as the amount of men creepily proposing to me continues to grow.

                      I was tired of being catcalled, I *talked about it*, and was told I was encouraging it.

                      This is the kind of behavior that drives women off of Fedi and toward closed platforms like Instagram where blocking is (seemingly) easier (and where there's more women).

                      https://linuxmom.net/@vkc/116007560411131080

                      The CyberwitchC This user is from outside of this forum
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                      @vkc the only way to get rid of sexual harassment, racism, transphobia, etc is to pretend it doesn't exist and hope it goes away on its own 🙃

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