Everyone loves blaming a victim.
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Everyone loves blaming a victim. "You are encouraging other weird/creepy people" GTFO with that.
I get a few of these EVERY TIME I post about sexism on this website. I'm sick of it- you all are making me want to delete this server and abandon Fedi. I'm totally serious.
This is as bad as sexual harassment.
@vkc Given your follower count here and on YouTube, one thing I expect is getting lost in the noise is the frequency bias. It's been a hot minute since something like this happened to me, but I have multiple orders of magnitude less followers on every platform combined than you do here.
It's easy to block and say "yeah, so that was weird" when it's something you can go months, even years without experiencing. I bet most of the people saying that shit to you have no idea what it's like to experience that daily, multiple times a day even.
Is it fact that there's a lot of "weirdos" (I hate using that word here because I don't think weird should be good or bad, just not-average) and creeps on the internet? Yes. Does literally everyone figure that out within five minutes? Yes. Are there infinitely better things someone can suggest to mitigate or prevent it in future than just blocking and moving on? Yes. Should you at least acknowledge how much it sucks, to say the least, before giving unsolicited advice? Yeah, if you actually want to help the person and not just collect brownie points.
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FYI this was in response to me being exhausted, as the amount of men creepily proposing to me continues to grow.
I was tired of being catcalled, I *talked about it*, and was told I was encouraging it.
This is the kind of behavior that drives women off of Fedi and toward closed platforms like Instagram where blocking is (seemingly) easier (and where there's more women).
@vkc How in the hell can these jackasses accuse you of encouraging marriage proposals from strangers? Literally the only way a person could encourage such bizarre behavior would be to say, "hey, I want to be married but I'm not in a relationship. Would someone please propose to me?"
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Everyone loves blaming a victim. "You are encouraging other weird/creepy people" GTFO with that.
I get a few of these EVERY TIME I post about sexism on this website. I'm sick of it- you all are making me want to delete this server and abandon Fedi. I'm totally serious.
This is as bad as sexual harassment.
@vkc I also read that responding only spreads their hate
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FYI this was in response to me being exhausted, as the amount of men creepily proposing to me continues to grow.
I was tired of being catcalled, I *talked about it*, and was told I was encouraging it.
This is the kind of behavior that drives women off of Fedi and toward closed platforms like Instagram where blocking is (seemingly) easier (and where there's more women).
[problem-solving mode engaged, hope this is appropriate]
Would it help if you had another mod to preemptively block these f#ckers before they have a chance to get in your head?
...or, longer-term, federated auto-blocking so you could let other instances do much of the mod work...?
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[problem-solving mode engaged, hope this is appropriate]
Would it help if you had another mod to preemptively block these f#ckers before they have a chance to get in your head?
...or, longer-term, federated auto-blocking so you could let other instances do much of the mod work...?
@woozle I wouldn't subject anyone else to the crap I see on this site. I have nightmares after some of the things I see. Some sort of federated blocking would be a good start but we've seen from Bluesky how something like that also has abuse potential.
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@mcSlibinas was I looking for a reason to block? Did I look like I was unsure about it? Was I asking for advice?
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@mcSlibinas I WAS LITERALLY POSTING ABOUT BLOCKING
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@mcSlibinas so blame the victim?
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@vkc @mcSlibinas why are you blaming her for others' awful behaviour
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Everyone loves blaming a victim. "You are encouraging other weird/creepy people" GTFO with that.
I get a few of these EVERY TIME I post about sexism on this website. I'm sick of it- you all are making me want to delete this server and abandon Fedi. I'm totally serious.
This is as bad as sexual harassment.
@vkc Your content is consistently good. I appreciate it. Loved the Apple Arm distro review. Don't let the bastards get you down. Thanks!
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@mcSlibinas @vkc brother these are all responses on her post, stop being a PITA
blocking only gets you so far, this is a systemic issue and frankly what are you adding to the discussion?
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FYI this was in response to me being exhausted, as the amount of men creepily proposing to me continues to grow.
I was tired of being catcalled, I *talked about it*, and was told I was encouraging it.
This is the kind of behavior that drives women off of Fedi and toward closed platforms like Instagram where blocking is (seemingly) easier (and where there's more women).
@vkc the only way to get rid of sexual harassment, racism, transphobia, etc is to pretend it doesn't exist and hope it goes away on its own
