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When we got home, a call from my sister-in-law said that she had not heard from her brother (who lives alone) in 2 weeks (we were at city medical appts). We were concerned, I was exhausted. I would go immediately at daylight to find out why no one could call him.

This is where things go bad

Expensive items were outside his home, not secured, but his door was secured. No answer. I tried to kick it in but it was really sturdy, I got tools, and broke in. I called for him. I had not been inside the house in 10 years. I wasn't ready for what I found. His mental condition had deteriorated

We had just had him for Christmas dinner, he seemed OK, but he had been purchasing repeated items for some time, there was clutter everywhere. I went room to room, sometimes having to break down doors, and could not find my brother in law. I checked around outside. I made my wife wait in the vehicle

Panic and rushing around with a torch, there were electric heaters everywhere, especially where it was unsafe to run them, and on the second sweep, I found him. He'd fallen in clutter and been unable to rise. He was weak, told me he'd been there a long time (possible week) & I had my wife stay

We don't have cellular service in this part of Halifax. I'd went a few houses down, and called 911 while my wife waited with her brother. First, I was very clear (but out of breath), this is not the location, it's where I am calling from.. and it went stupid after that. What civic address?

I was responding in an emerg, I didn't know the address off my head, I said three houses west, and I said I would flag them down as they arrived. They still called me the owner's name, and sent a crew to respond to a house collapse but the same response as any other thing, fire dept first.

My wife was already crying, it was too late. I took charge, answered RCMP questions, and went blank when I had to give the last names of my two sister-in-laws. We fixed that later. They still came to see my wife, I went out and put my winter tires on the car I just bought. Remember my neighbour?

When the coroner left, late in the day, my buddy that loaned me his van, came, helped me secure/find valuables & return daily to begin the process of finding his wallet, bills, & more. It was two days before I found his wallet. We went every day to dig, bag debris & pull personal mail out of it

I have monsters in my head from my military service.
I am up all night anyway. I have security cameras everywhere, I just watched the plow box me in at 1 am with engine-size ice blocks. I'm fit. but I'm also old.
I had to remove them, blocking the driveway at 3 am, before they froze in hard

I grabbed a coffee afterwards, looked out to see a faint blinking light across the highway. I'm not sleeping anyway, but I have to investigate, what only I can see.
I threw my neon coveralls over my pajamas & took my floodlight to investigate. It was a car accident. I went into high alert mode

The car had left the highway (which was so covered in black ice. I had to duck walk. The airbag had been deployed, there was blood. Items had been dragged from the vehicle, door still open, ignition still on, no driver found. I panicked (as one should), called out, searched for blood or snow prints

I couldn't find the injured driver, I ran back home & called 911 (another stupid delay, my phone number comes up at my former address on the 911 screen)
Try not sending response there, OK?
Delay, delay, "are you sure it's not in....?"
FFS, did I mention it was an emergency?
SMH, Twice in 2 days

I went to meet emerg response. the same people that came to the sudden death 48 hours ago, were there again. The RCMP called my by my first name, we're making a habit of meeting under unpleasant circumstances. As the history unfolded, I was glad the driver hadn't wandered into the woods confused.
Turns out, in spite of the ice on the highway, they charged the driver with DUI when located.

I was still vibrating for the last 48 hours, and needed some sleep. I was unable to take new medications, because I didn't know the reaction I would get, when I needed all my faculties.

My Pill doctor (Pusher with Big Pharma kickbacks), gave me new meds to sleep. I don't trust his prescriptions, I just approved a new script when I hit cell range. 2 hour wait to fill it before going home. He drugged me all Dec 2025, but doesn't believe Cannabis works? Kickbacks

But I had to sleep

I took 1 pill, NADA! 2 hours later, as the sky was getting 1st light, I finally fell asleep. My mother (long story) isn't ever supposed to call me. In return for her not calling. and stressing me put, I always call her twice a day, religiously.
I just fell asleep, missed 7:30 so she woke me

Now I am heavily medicated, but can't sleep, & a fiber guy is at my door. The ice storm pulled my fiber off the house. I had a booking, either forgot day (with all that was happening), or he was passing by. I could hardly stand, and made no sense. I kept asking who he was? Did I call you?

I said, "never mind, I have no idea what I am saying", and he left. It would be afternoon before I realized he did what he was supposed to do, and I could not take another pill.

When able to make conscious decisions again, I started more funeral planning with my wife, and I did what she forgot.

The funeral director helped fill in pallbearers, that we couldn't find. My wife overlooked things, so I did a generic obit, fill in family names, dates and information.

The most important person to me at that time, was my neighbour. He came to help me every day, making trips back to the house.
Each day, we'd shovel in, gather important papers, items of monetary or sentimental value. I called to cancel the phone. and #Bell tried to up-sell me?

I was very clear, |THIS IS A BEREAVEMENT CALL"
I had to hang up on them after they asked if I'd asked others in the area first. But they cut it off

We'll be there for another month, sorting & saving items, open to weather now.
I'm exhausted after all that has happened, the daily clean-ups and more.
The funeral is over though, it went without a hitch.
There is no Will, but no assets, except a nice used car he just purchased.

All the trips trying to find a car & now I have an extra, that I can't register.
My wife is the administrator, and will try to register the car with her paperwork. Not every place excepts the same proof. My bank doesn't even recognize my wife's Power of Attorney for me.

This is a long story, were you expecting shorter? I could go on far longer than this.

To those who PMed condolences & support, thank you.
For those who replied to my post, I didn't reply, because it would draw me back into Social Media & I had no time.

My own medical treatments got screwed up

When possible, I do phone/video medical appts.
I have a list, each one highlighted by date-time, so I don't miss them.
I had an important one between visitation & funeral.
I was a pallbearer, I was putting on a tie, while on the phone, carrying in an hour, phone calls haven't stopped, even today

While I was waiting for a doctor's phone appt, another booking call, for my canceled Physio (storm).
I heard a beep (2nd call).
Before I could switch, I lost it.
All this wait, and I lost my appt time.
I called right back but they were busy with other clients.
Will try again at casket time

I'm to be a pallbear, they are waiting for me at the church, and they called back for my appt. YIKES! It was so close, that I finished dressing while in my appt, right to the church after hanging up. I missed 2 more follow-up calls.
Still a few days in Jan, still up all night, but it's settling down

I'm doing OK, for those concerned that I was having a hard time. (I was)
I was disconnected, doing necessary administration & clean up,
I responded professionally (past training) in each emergency situation, without a problem.

But I can't sleep, after these situations, are over.

So, I was up anyway, I was writing an appeal to Veterans Affairs & I thought, it's time to pop back in, and return to Social Media.
You knew this was going to be long?
I told you not to make eye-contact with me

I may delete this whole thread in a few day.
It answers all questions at once /FIN

@Rasta This is where I figured out that I had to find the beginning of thread and am terribly sorry for all you are going through... things are supposed to only happen in 3's ... 🫂🫂 ...

@Rasta Have to ask how is Max and sisters doing ?? Answer when comfortable enough to do so...

@Lstn2urmama That's why I didn't want to be online, or see a reply from everyone about each incident I lose messages, that get burried from too many replies, and I had enough to deal with. I waited until the funeral was over to sit down and explain to everyone, but the cleanup, and business affairs of my brother in law will keep us busy until summer

@Lstn2urmama My wife was a mess. She's youngest and doing the work of the eldest. Always had to before too, but her mind is messed up processing all this so fast And the conditions found, and how we were right in the community, finally able to see him, and hadn't been inside his house in 10 years, and it was horrifying. She's deeply distrubed by his loss, but as much so by the conditions he'd gotten into. He was so intelligent, I met him first. I needed an excuse to get to his sister.
We talked about Astrophysics, stars, music, electronic, he was brilliant, I could barely catch up, and I'd been around the world, and he'd never left a `100 mile radius. There was no internet, he self-taught from books, but his mind went fast, he was unable to care for himself alone

@Rasta totally understand as am also in same position from being ill and unable to get home care and have had to leave much not in place or open new deliveries that have stacked up in hallway or unfinished jobs because of mobility issues and landlord has been an issue

and no help from anywhere nothing for seniors or the disabled and unable to find any lawyer to deal with when one is unable to go anywhere other than bed and bathroom most times am feeling abandoned and with no future

@Rasta the same is happening in for Tim and his MIL and if I die all my valuables will hit the garbage in 2 54 ft. Trailers...

@Lstn2urmama Don't make me worry about you too? Anyone that you can trust to do wellness checks, or someone we could ask what happened to you?
You get to know Social Media friends, many times, better than in real life, They provide social interactions for the shut-ins and people who just need to chat, because they have no one there.
But it does create more worry for me, Make lists, call someone every day that would notice if you missed a day (NOT ME!!) I don't know if you remember my pirate author friend on Twitter? His wife came on to tell his followers of his passing We had some real good conversations, I had helped promote his books and novelettes,
They are all missed the same as if they lived next door

@Lstn2urmama My childhood friend in the country (remember I didn't grow up here, we were a military family, we were never anywhere more than 3 years in my life.) is the brother, of my brother-in-law's wife. She passed in 2006, I think? That might hae been months before or after I retired.
That was the last time I saw him. He has family heirlooms in that house, but leaks and neglect left them worthless. But it's very bad. Just blue-bag recycle extra large bags, are about 10 bags per room, we have 20 waiting for garbage day, just to get to the second room. It will be months before we know if we have fond everything. I found my childhood friend;s grandmothers diaries. I preserved them for a museum but asked if he wanted them, and he absolutely does. I thought so. We had a childhood remark between us "Got any buoys to sell?" as kids, we dug clams, and steamed them, and sold them in front of the house with buoys and old lobster traps, mostly to US tourists with skies in Aug

@Rasta Great memories to have and I have many expensive collections that have not seen daylight because worked day and ight some years and others 7x364 days of many years .. 7 ft Xnas tree has only been up once and took till After Mother's day to take down and put away and not seen daylight since ..

from under my kitchen sink sits on floor into the living room space and not able to deal with since knees got worse and unable to bend down ... I talk a good talk BUT physically unable to do anything if not seated on a chair or stool in kitchen.... motion has to be complete in 1 minute sometimes less if with vertigo ...
I suddenly became 10 years older in this last year as illness has taken its toll ... am feeling better for fist time in ages till another attack hits me ...
I posted a HELP post earlier .. it's long ...

@Rasta Sorry I did not know he was gone .. life changes so much...

Landlord is ignoring my being ill and has taken a court tenancy thing .. and when ill you cannot function to deal with anything ...delibrately in winter to evict me and

has lied with a false lease that they took a signature of mine from other paperwork and the copy sent to me is a photocopy of some different lease never seen before as my orginal lease is from 1991 and this copy has fresh blue ink amd green ink on it and

NOBODY will even listen to me and cannot find any lawyer who will do anything as they all explain that they have no idea how to do anything about it and no recommendations either and the OMBUDSMAN was even WORSE

Landlord has made information sound like am abusive and aggressive and other tenant complaints ...interesting when you do not talk or see others ..
Have one good neighbor who looks after a few things for me a few doors down and ... I will give them your number if OK ..