Do you ever get turned on by your own body/presentation?

@alice No. And I'm baffled by claims that 'dad bod' is a thing people are attracted to.

@alice

Not sure which I should pick.

Cis bisexual. Yes.

@alice there probably was at some point that i did but after all the comments ive gotten over the decades, there isnt one thing i like about how i look and i kinda wish i actually was a giant floating autistic blob

@alice @roknrol excuse me but. Do you have 72 million hours because I can explain

@alice I'm a person with boobs and I have the male gaze, so yes.

@catmisgivings can I get the tl;dr like hour-long version?

@roknrol

@Energetic_Nova "cishet" is a package deal (for this poll), so the non-cishet "yes" choice aligning most closely with your gender.

@emily_rugburn 🫂🫂🫂

@roknrol @alice 1. Dads are hot. Like, when they are doing dad things especially 2. Dads on the earthly plane have bods 3. The classic "dad bod" guy is like, wearing a witty band t-shirt and has a little bit of a beer gut and probably had a gym membership but like 6 mos ago? And I love bands and beer and I have an on-again off-again relationship with the gym so we have so much in common actually

Sigh

@alice If I could actually have the presentation I want, perhaps.

Until then? No.

@alice "I'm ace spec; what even is 'turned on'?"

@anyia I think you could answer "non-cishet femme; no" in that case, but I'm not koalalified to answer your actual question.

@lispi314 🫂

@roknrol As a card-carrying, decades-long practicing homo I can 100% confirm that there are many many gay men who are very into "dad bods". Indeed, I'd assert that the venn diagram of "dad bods" and "gay bears" has significant overlap.

@alice

@gairdeachas unrelated to anyone's interest in dad bods, we should get together for drinks again

I don't get to hang out with nearly enough card-carrying homos

@roknrol

@DodoTheDev
Yaaaaaaassss, love hearing this! Learning to like (much less love) your body is hard AF and I'm stoked that you've found someone who made you believe it!

@alice

@alice I'm very hairy, dad bod shaped and have shoulders wider than any and all bus seats, not exactly no, I'm not exactly what people picture when "Enby" is brought up, I've no idea what people imagine but it usually isn't how I look

@alice I'd love that! I'm still in Older Bear Mecca (ie Palm Springs) until mid March and we should get drinks when I'm back!

@alice Nope. Not very attractive cishet man here, nothing about my body turns me on and I've got decades of experience indicating no one else really thinks so either.

@ProphetsCross yeah, (at least on Fedi) "enby" seems to be mostly synonymous with "femme-presenting nonbinary" or "femby" in most folx minds.

I'm of the opinion that when someone tells you they're nonbinary or an enby, then you know exactly one thing about them—that they're not cishet.