@vkc That's so awful! The "this isn't really a problem" people are such a huge part of the problem here on Mastodon it's crazy. I've seen people talk about this with both racism and sexism issues here

From what I've heard, part of the problem is that, due to how federation (and de-federation) works, posters will see harassment that half their audience can't, and the whack-a-mole game of moderation gets harder with the distributed servers. I love the fediverse, but there's no question that it needs better moderation tools.

Calling out bad actors and the people that excuse them is step zero in seeing that change, and it's so important to keep doing that. Thank you for posting about it when you encounter nasty commenters 🧡

@exocomics alt: A four panel comic: A tortoise glares at a set of four stares, then struggles to the top. At the top, it encounters a 'closed' sign on the door. The turtle stares off into the distance and says, "It was about the journey all along."

@alice I like this post, it's still got me thinking. Like, I wouldn't say that I'm aroused by the idea of "myself," but I am aroused by fantasies which involve femme treatment of my body.

For example, I find arousal in fantasies where someone is caressing my breasts or performing vaginal penetration on me, but those are normal things for a femme allosexual person to be aroused by. Regardless of whether those features are home-grown, store-bought, or hypothetical. It doesn't mean I'm turned on by my body or the concept of having a vagina. It's really that in the fantasy I'm imagining using those parts for sex specifically.

This question feels more nuanced the more I think about it lol

@alice I'm not-cishet femme. I would say that "turned on" might be workable, but usually I'm not turned on by my body and "fascinated and jubilant" would be way more accurate day-to-day.

That said, my relationship with masturbation has improved immensely since transitioning. I think that finding myself attractive plays some role in that, but being more comfortable in my body and how it responds to sexual pleasure plays a much greater role.

I guess I vote "non-cishet femme; no"? But it's a grey area for me.