@nagirin I'm the primary caregiver of my 70 + year old mother (or used to be - it's a long story - we both became homeless and she ended up in the hospital, then in a nursing home, I still take care of her because she isn't being properly attended to by the staff there and visit every day, per her own wishes) and the amount of times people said things like this to my face is more than I can recall. It's very common in modern society, and it never fails to sicken me.