@sashag@anarres.family This is absolutely true. Our patriarchal culture sexualizes femininity and womanhood. This filters down into our legal, medical, and therapeutic systems. As marginalized women, we are exposed to the worst aspects of this.
I knew my body was wrong long before my sexuality developed. Do I ever feel aroused when I dress sexy? Sure, just as any other person experiences their own sensuality when they feel confident and sexy. I have a lot of fetishes, but underwear or dresses aren't even close to arousing.