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  3. It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

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  • Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
    Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
    Neil Brown
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    #23

    @Natasha_Jay

    Yes, exactly!

    And, sure, people can follow whomever they want too.

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    • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

      @tknarr

      Ah, reply privacy, being the visibility level attached to a reply I make.

      No, that is something completely different to controlling what replies I allow to my toots.

      Todd KnarrT This user is from outside of this forum
      Todd KnarrT This user is from outside of this forum
      Todd Knarr
      wrote last edited by
      #24

      @neil Huh. I thought there was a separate one for replies to your post, not your replies. Sorry, apparently I was wrong.

      I also don't see anything for limiting visibiility to only those you follow, only to followers. There's an option whether or not to auto-approve followers, you can turn that off to give you control over who can follow you. That seems to be as far as it goes.

      Going to add my voice to the requests for more reply privacy options.

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      • Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
        Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
        Neil Brown
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        #25

        @curiousbadger Indeed 😞

        And this is a (predominantly) men thing, not a tech thing.

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        • Todd KnarrT Todd Knarr

          @neil Huh. I thought there was a separate one for replies to your post, not your replies. Sorry, apparently I was wrong.

          I also don't see anything for limiting visibiility to only those you follow, only to followers. There's an option whether or not to auto-approve followers, you can turn that off to give you control over who can follow you. That seems to be as far as it goes.

          Going to add my voice to the requests for more reply privacy options.

          Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
          Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
          Neil Brown
          wrote last edited by
          #26

          @tknarr It's all good 🙂

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          • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

            It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

            Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

            Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
            Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
            Signor Q. 🦩
            wrote last edited by
            #27

            @neil Can you in RL control who`s replying to words you said?

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            • Signor Q. 🦩E Signor Q. 🦩

              @neil Can you in RL control who`s replying to words you said?

              Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
              Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
              Neil Brown
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              #28

              @electricfusionQ

              RL?

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              • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                @electricfusionQ

                RL?

                Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
                Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
                Signor Q. 🦩
                wrote last edited by
                #29

                @neil real life

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                • Signor Q. 🦩E Signor Q. 🦩

                  @neil real life

                  Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                  Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                  Neil Brown
                  wrote last edited by
                  #30

                  @electricfusionQ

                  This is real life?

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                  • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                    @electricfusionQ

                    This is real life?

                    Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
                    Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
                    Signor Q. 🦩
                    wrote last edited by
                    #31

                    @neil Then the actual face to face world

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                    • Signor Q. 🦩E Signor Q. 🦩

                      @neil Then the actual face to face world

                      Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                      Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                      Neil Brown
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                      #32

                      @electricfusionQ

                      Sorry, I think that I am misunderstanding.

                      Yes, women (and others) get harassed face to face too, and yes, absolutely, men should stop doing that. In the absence of that, we should put safety measures in place.

                      We have the ability to do different things in different contexts.

                      If that is what you are saying, then I agree completely.

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                      • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                        It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                        Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                        u_urbanU This user is from outside of this forum
                        u_urbanU This user is from outside of this forum
                        u_urban
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                        #33

                        @neil

                        Wo ist das Problem, dann muss man halt seinen Beitrag mit der Einstellung "Only Follower" veröffentlichen!
                        Ist halt schade um die Möglichkeit seine Gedanken in größerer Runde auszutauschen und auf neue interessante Menschen zu treffen!
                        Vielleicht hilft dann auch der Umzug auf eine andere, kleinere (?) Instanz.
                        Oft lohnt sich auch die Kommunikation auf die Metaebene zu heben, konnte so schon manches Missverständnis klären!

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                        • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                          It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                          Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                          ValentinoV This user is from outside of this forum
                          ValentinoV This user is from outside of this forum
                          Valentino
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                          #34

                          @neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is

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                          • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                            It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                            Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                            @PrivacyMattersP This user is from outside of this forum
                            @PrivacyMattersP This user is from outside of this forum
                            @PrivacyMatters
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                            #35

                            @neil 💯

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                            • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                              It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                              Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                              Tim ChambersT This user is from outside of this forum
                              Tim ChambersT This user is from outside of this forum
                              Tim Chambers
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                              #36

                              @neil @steter Agree that reply controls and “hide reply” in particular where it make reply invisible but commenter never knows - is crucial to build.

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                              • ValentinoV Valentino

                                @neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is

                                Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                                Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                                Neil Brown
                                wrote last edited by
                                #37

                                @VSRT

                                Welcome!

                                The term "fediverse" is just slang for the network(s) of federated services/servers, of which your server (wehavecookies.social) is one.

                                A "fedi" user, here, is someone who uses one or more fediverse services.

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                                • u_urbanU u_urban

                                  @neil

                                  Wo ist das Problem, dann muss man halt seinen Beitrag mit der Einstellung "Only Follower" veröffentlichen!
                                  Ist halt schade um die Möglichkeit seine Gedanken in größerer Runde auszutauschen und auf neue interessante Menschen zu treffen!
                                  Vielleicht hilft dann auch der Umzug auf eine andere, kleinere (?) Instanz.
                                  Oft lohnt sich auch die Kommunikation auf die Metaebene zu heben, konnte so schon manches Missverständnis klären!

                                  Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                                  Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
                                  Neil Brown
                                  wrote last edited by
                                  #38

                                  @u_urban

                                  I suspect that the online translation I used is poor, as it makes it sound like you are trivialising the impact of these replies on women, and suggesting that the onus is on them (moving instance, or engaging differently) to solve the problem.

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                                  • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                                    @tknarr It's all good 🙂

                                    Todd KnarrT This user is from outside of this forum
                                    Todd KnarrT This user is from outside of this forum
                                    Todd Knarr
                                    wrote last edited by
                                    #39

                                    @neil I'm still looking at what's involved in creating subscribeable blocklists. The basic hook into the block functionality on the server is obvious enough, but the list itself involves learning everything about the ActivityPub protocol and the federation and syndication models. Making it useful involves having categorization and user ratings while preventing abuse of them too. Straightforward in concept, terminally hirsute in implementation.

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                                    • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                                      @VSRT

                                      Welcome!

                                      The term "fediverse" is just slang for the network(s) of federated services/servers, of which your server (wehavecookies.social) is one.

                                      A "fedi" user, here, is someone who uses one or more fediverse services.

                                      ValentinoV This user is from outside of this forum
                                      ValentinoV This user is from outside of this forum
                                      Valentino
                                      wrote last edited by
                                      #40

                                      @neil oh I understand now, thanks for taking the time to explain it to me :))

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                                      • Alex HyettA Alex Hyett

                                        @neil that would be perfect. An “only allow replies from people you follow” option would help so much.

                                        Maria Langer | 📝💎🌵🛥️M This user is from outside of this forum
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                                        #41

                                        @alex @neil Yes and no. If someone has fears, then yes. But the way I find new people to follow is when they interact with my posts. Having an option like that turned on would prevent me from doing that.

                                        So I guess my answer really is YES, as long as it's an OPTION.

                                        I have no qualms about blocking assholes, and I really don't care what they say behind my back. Unlike them, I have a life and it isn't centered on social media.🤷🏼‍♀️

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                                        • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                                          It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                                          Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                                          MelissaS This user is from outside of this forum
                                          MelissaS This user is from outside of this forum
                                          Melissa
                                          wrote last edited by
                                          #42

                                          @neil
                                          I've already been called the N word and I've only been here a week or so. It's surprising how nasty people get when online. 😕

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