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  3. It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

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  • Edelruth, PBS Passport HolderE Edelruth, PBS Passport Holder

    @neil

    There is a word filter system, which is probably not the level of control you are proposing, but it is a real-time start.

    I have the classic insults blocked, but, for cause, sadly.

    Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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    @Edelruth Yes, I filter *a lot*.

    As you say, a useful, tangential, measure.

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    • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

      It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

      Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

      Todd KnarrT This user is from outside of this forum
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      @neil In account settings there's a followers-only option for reply privacy. That's probably what you want.

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      • Todd KnarrT Todd Knarr

        @neil In account settings there's a followers-only option for reply privacy. That's probably what you want.

        Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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        @tknarr

        Hmm... What setting are you thinking of here, as it doesn't ring a bell?

        It doesn't solve the problem completely, but being able to restrict replies to people I follow would be a great start.

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        • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

          @tknarr

          Hmm... What setting are you thinking of here, as it doesn't ring a bell?

          It doesn't solve the problem completely, but being able to restrict replies to people I follow would be a great start.

          Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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          @tknarr

          Ah, reply privacy, being the visibility level attached to a reply I make.

          No, that is something completely different to controlling what replies I allow to my toots.

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          • Tony HoyleT Tony Hoyle

            @neil
            I believe there is a plan to add something like followers only, but one problem is that servers that are not upgraded to a version that supports that flag wouldn't honour it.

            Not that it's a reason not to do it, but it'll take a while before it's effective.

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            @tony @neil
            That problem exists for the whole protocol, though. A server can equally well ignore "mentioned only" and show the post on their "local" feed if it wants to.

            Thus the problem doesn't prevent implementing the feature any more than it prevents the whole fediverse.

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            • Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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              @Natasha_Jay

              Yes, exactly!

              And, sure, people can follow whomever they want too.

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              • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                @tknarr

                Ah, reply privacy, being the visibility level attached to a reply I make.

                No, that is something completely different to controlling what replies I allow to my toots.

                Todd KnarrT This user is from outside of this forum
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                @neil Huh. I thought there was a separate one for replies to your post, not your replies. Sorry, apparently I was wrong.

                I also don't see anything for limiting visibiility to only those you follow, only to followers. There's an option whether or not to auto-approve followers, you can turn that off to give you control over who can follow you. That seems to be as far as it goes.

                Going to add my voice to the requests for more reply privacy options.

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                • Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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                  @curiousbadger Indeed 😞

                  And this is a (predominantly) men thing, not a tech thing.

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                  • Todd KnarrT Todd Knarr

                    @neil Huh. I thought there was a separate one for replies to your post, not your replies. Sorry, apparently I was wrong.

                    I also don't see anything for limiting visibiility to only those you follow, only to followers. There's an option whether or not to auto-approve followers, you can turn that off to give you control over who can follow you. That seems to be as far as it goes.

                    Going to add my voice to the requests for more reply privacy options.

                    Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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                    @tknarr It's all good 🙂

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                    • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                      It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                      Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                      Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
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                      @neil Can you in RL control who`s replying to words you said?

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                      • Signor Q. 🦩E Signor Q. 🦩

                        @neil Can you in RL control who`s replying to words you said?

                        Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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                        @electricfusionQ

                        RL?

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                        • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                          @electricfusionQ

                          RL?

                          Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
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                          @neil real life

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                          • Signor Q. 🦩E Signor Q. 🦩

                            @neil real life

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                            @electricfusionQ

                            This is real life?

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                            • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                              @electricfusionQ

                              This is real life?

                              Signor Q. 🦩E This user is from outside of this forum
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                              @neil Then the actual face to face world

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                              • Signor Q. 🦩E Signor Q. 🦩

                                @neil Then the actual face to face world

                                Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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                                @electricfusionQ

                                Sorry, I think that I am misunderstanding.

                                Yes, women (and others) get harassed face to face too, and yes, absolutely, men should stop doing that. In the absence of that, we should put safety measures in place.

                                We have the ability to do different things in different contexts.

                                If that is what you are saying, then I agree completely.

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                                • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                                  It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                                  Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                                  u_urbanU This user is from outside of this forum
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                                  @neil

                                  Wo ist das Problem, dann muss man halt seinen Beitrag mit der Einstellung "Only Follower" veröffentlichen!
                                  Ist halt schade um die Möglichkeit seine Gedanken in größerer Runde auszutauschen und auf neue interessante Menschen zu treffen!
                                  Vielleicht hilft dann auch der Umzug auf eine andere, kleinere (?) Instanz.
                                  Oft lohnt sich auch die Kommunikation auf die Metaebene zu heben, konnte so schon manches Missverständnis klären!

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                                  • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                                    It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                                    Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                                    ValentinoV This user is from outside of this forum
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                                    @neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is

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                                    • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                                      It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                                      Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                                      @PrivacyMattersP This user is from outside of this forum
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                                      @neil 💯

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                                      • Neil BrownN Neil Brown

                                        It always makes me sad when another fedi user - and, in my experience, it is always a woman - says that they feel unsafe posting here, because of replies they get.

                                        Control over who can reply to a toot would be amazing, as a way to improve this without them needing to mute or block post-harm.

                                        Tim ChambersT This user is from outside of this forum
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                                        @neil @steter Agree that reply controls and “hide reply” in particular where it make reply invisible but commenter never knows - is crucial to build.

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                                        • ValentinoV Valentino

                                          @neil new here, what’s a “fedi”? I keep seeing this word but I can’t understand what it is

                                          Neil BrownN This user is from outside of this forum
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                                          @VSRT

                                          Welcome!

                                          The term "fediverse" is just slang for the network(s) of federated services/servers, of which your server (wehavecookies.social) is one.

                                          A "fedi" user, here, is someone who uses one or more fediverse services.

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